Three situation of life

In any human relationship – A person may have experience many situations .

Among those ,some are- based on age , childhood/ young and old based on Marital status such as, Single/couple or married /and divorce based on Sex, Male/ female /and trans based on Sexuality such as, Straight couple/gay couples/ and lesbian couple

So all these situations we can apply the basic situation of feeling which I paint in this painting

In any human relationship – straight, gay, transgender, male or female, black or white, able or disabled, old or young - personal relationships are characterised by mutually dependable behaviour that can be trusted. But trust has to be earned and to earn that trust the relationship will usually go through three distinct stages. It is these stages which my painting attempts to illustrate. The three colours of life are about these stages.

Alone, the three colours in my painting -yellow, red and dark blue - mean something different. But when these three colours come together in a free flow one to the other, it is a powerful combination that can form a powerful and hopefully everlasting bond.

Let’s look at the typical couple going through these colours of yellow, red and dark blue. The free flow of life!

Yellow depicts high feelings and often anger. Anger that can arise through simple errors and misunderstandings. It brings about conflict and competition in the personal relationship. Conflict inevitably results in personal relationships being assessed and reassessed.

Should we/they go forward? If they decide to go forward, there will need to be some compromise and reconciliation. Individuals may have to bend and mould their feelings, ideas, attitudes, and beliefs. Questions will arise about who is responsible for what, what the rules are, what the benefits are and is it going to be worth it?

These reflect new conflicts around issues of leadership, independence, power, and authority. There will be wild and often angry swings in their behaviour based on these emerging issues of competition and hostilities. Because of the discomfort generated during this stage, one person may remain completely silent while the other attempts to dominate. There needs to be bridge building and it is the medium of love that offers this prospect in our next stage of Red.

In order to progress to the next stage -Red - the couple will often move from a "testing and proving" mentality to a relaxed fun scenario with fun fights and mutual teasing. The most important traits here become the ability to make love and their interpersonal relations are characterised by becoming one person. They are engaged together in active acts of love and sex as acknowledgment of each other’s contribution to relationship building and maintenance. This brings about each person being willing to change their preconceived ideas or opinions on the basis of facts. Common humanity is shared, and previous poisons dissolve. When they begin to know-and identify with-one another in this way, the level of trust in their personal relations contributes to the development of humanity as we know it at its best today. There is a real sense of belonging and a feeling of relief as a result of resolving interpersonal conflicts through testing each other through fun

Dark Blue is the culmination of this free flow between them. Creativity through entertainment is high. They will share feelings and ideas, solicit and give feedback to one another, and explore actions related to a future life. There will be openness and sharing of information on both a personal and collective level. They feel good about being part of each other. Here there is unity. Loyalty is intense. There is mutual support for experimentation in solving problems and an emphasis on achievement together.

And because the three colours flow as one, when problems arise (as they do in life) the coloured cycle begins anew. And so, combined like a rainbow, these stages are all necessary and inevitable in order for the couple to grow, face up to challenges, tackle problems, find solutions, plan work, and deliver results. The environment then plays an important role to model the initial behaviour of each individual in the relationship and the wider world of family and friends watching on But to grow from stage to stage, each person must relinquish the comfort of non- threatening topics and risk the possibility of conflict.

And this tripartite coloured model is transferable to working life. Think of a team working in a company or organisation for the first time. They will have similar stages of yellow, red and dark blue. In international relations politically and diplomatically yellow, red and dark blue must be tested to the full for the avoidance of war.

The three colours could have brought together the famous lovers Romeo and Juliet with the words:- Of three in ONE and One in three

My narrow mind would doubting be (YELLOW) Till Beauty, Grace and Kindness met (RED) And all at once were Juliet (DARK BLUE) The colours of life!